Coming Summer 2015
When I was pregnant with my first child, I could not wait to meet him face-to-face. But as soon as we brought him home from the hospital, I wanted to shove him back into the safety of my womb. Or at least wrap him in bubble wrap. The anxiety was overwhelming. Would he attach to me? What if he didn’t like me? What if I couldn’t immediately respond to his cries? Would I permanently damage his brain? Could potty training him before he was “ready” (whatever that means) potentially traumatize him for life? Why wasn’t he reading at age five? Did I ruin his chances of going to Harvard because I only breastfed him for three months?
Searching for answers on the internet only increased my anxiety. I found many parenting philosophies, and each one claimed to have the answers. There were French parents, attachment parents, lawnmower parents, and those parents who just generally hover around their children until they turn thirty. Rather than easing my anxiety, I was on the verge of an existential parenting crisis.
All I wanted was information that would help me calm the f@ck down, enjoy my children, and let me be myself — snarky sense of humor and all. So, I turned to the research literature. Turns out, it’s harder to traumatize our kids than most of us realize. And, ultimately, we have less control over our children’s development than most of us think we have or would probably like. But don’t let that scare you. Let it liberate you as it did me.
Calm The F@ck Down provides research based information on many issues that drive our parenting anxiety, including attachment, sleep, brain development, and education. It arms us with knowledge that allows us to make informed decisions and calm the f@ck down so we can enjoy our children and our role as parents. It’s short, to the point, and uses profanity because, well, sometimes you just have to tell it like it is.