“Parenting today is virtually synonymous with worry.”
— Dr. Rima D. Apple, Professor Emeritus, University of Wisconsin-Madison
But it doesn’t have to be.
Parenting experts tend to provide black and white prescriptions to nudge parents toward parenting behaviors they believe are optimal. Sometimes they even use neuroscience to scare parents into those allegedly better behaviors.
But family life and human development is highly complex. Every family and each family member is different, living in a unique situation.
The “experts” don’t know you, your family, or your circumstances. So they don’t really know what’s best for you.
That’s why I use a collaborative approach — parents bring their expertise and knowledge of their children and family, and I share my knowledge and expertise of family systems and development.
Together, we work to find personalized solutions for each family’s specific situation.
I educate parents so they can — on their own — evaluate parenting advice and educational practices to determine what’s best for their children and their family.
Dr. Shaw is a mentor, in the true meaning of the word, to parents. Our children have gone through many phases of development, which at many times required her assistance and expert advice.
— father of two teenage children
Rather than adhering to a single parenting philosophy, I draw on research from a variety of disciplines to help families determine which behaviors will lead them toward healthier functioning. I do this in three steps:
First, I help parents examine their assumptions influencing their parenting behaviors.
Then I introduce new perspectives and knowledge that help parents find better solutions for their individual families.
After that, I help parents assess how their new solutions are working and help them make adjustments and improvements for better results.
Trained in family systems, I view the family as an interconnected, emotional system. This means parenting is not just about what parents do to children. Children also impact their own development and the family as a whole. Helping parents to view their family as an interconnected family system helps parents to see what parts of the system require change and attention.
I reveal to parents the science behind:
- eating habits
- social, emotional, cognitive, and sensorimotor development
- technology’s impact on development
- rewards and punishments
- differentiation of the self
An initial session is 90 minutes and costs $200. Follow-up 60-minute sessions can be scheduled and cost $135. Some families only need one session. Others feel they need more. That decision is up to each family.
Consultations are for adults only so parents can speak freely. They can occur in person or via telephone, Skype, or FaceTime. I am located in the Los Angeles area.
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