Walking the talk is especially difficult, in my opinion, for Montessori teachers. They have to be sure that what they’re doing isn’t controlling the children. It can be all too easy to interact with students in a way that fosters behavioral compliance instead of self-regulated learning.
“I’m as guilty as anyone of distorting my teaching. When talking to other teachers, I often play up the progressive elements: Student-led discussions. Creative projects. Guided discovery activities. I mumble through the minor, inconvenient fact that my pedagogy is, at its core, deeply traditional. I let my walk and my talk drift apart. Not only does this thwart other teachers in their attempts to honestly evaluate my approach, but it blocks my own self-evaluation. I can’t grow properly unless I see my own work with eyes that are sympathetic, but clear and unyielding.”
via I Lie About My Teaching – Ben Orlin – The Atlantic.
“Did I take that the way you intended?”
This can be particularly effective with people who are passive aggressive!
via Separating Offense From Insult | Big Think | Influence, Power, & Politics.
“Neurodiversity activists are troubled by the aspects of behavioral therapy that they think are designed less for the well-being of autistic people and more for the comfort of others. Autistic children are often rewarded for using “quiet hands” instead of flapping, in part so that they will not seem odd, a priority that activists find offensive. Ne’eman offered another example: “Eye contact is an anxiety-inducing experience for us, so suppressing our natural inclination not to look someone in the eye takes energy that might otherwise go toward thinking more critically about what that person may be trying to communicate. We have a saying that’s pretty common among autistic young people: ‘I can either look like I’m paying attention or I can actually pay attention.’ Unfortunately, a lot of people tell us that looking like you’re paying attention is more important than actually paying attention.””
via The Kids Who Beat Autism – NYTimes.com.